The problem with being perfect | Mel Robbins

 

Don't Put Off Beating Procrastination

 If you want to write something - whether that's a novel, a self-help book or an email autoresponder campaign - there's one thing you have to do.

You have to put pen to paper, so to speak.

Because all the best writing skills and ideas won't get you very far. At some point, you have to create something.

But, for many folk, something inside blocks them.

They procrastinate.

The hypnotists among you will know this isn't always a big deal. Often I've procrastinated on something because my unconscious mind was telling me I wasn't ready yet. In fact, I'm procrastinating on a project like that right now.

Having said that, the hypnotists among you also know sometimes your unconscious mind "protects" you from failure by never letting you try.

I leave it to you to decide whether you're procrastinating for the right reasons or the wrong ones.

If it's the wrong ones, and you want to get down to work, then here's what's worked for me...

But before I get into that, why should you care what works for me?

Because I'm a natural procrastinator, easily distracted by shiny new ideas. It used to be so bad I could never do much I wasn't forced to. It's a lot better now, though that spectre isn't off my back. I still find myself goofing off, even when I have a deadline.

Even so, I've learned to sit down and churn out a lot of great content.

I'm not a naturally productive person, if there even is such a thing. I train my mind to create by facing the causes of procrastination head on:

Clarity
One of the causes of "good" procrastination can be one of the more frustrating:

A lack of clarity.

This is a strange thing. Often our ideas seem so clear to us. When you close your eyes, you can see it. Then, when you go to create it, you realise what you have in mind is just a phantom. What you had in mind was closer to a felt sense than a blueprint.

If you're procrastinating, this might be why. Your unconscious doesn't have a firm grasp of what you need to do yet, so it doesn't motivate you into taking action.

Even if it wanted to, it couldn't.

Solution: map out what you want to create. Explain it aloud to someone or at least yourself. You'll quickly notice any areas that need fleshing out.

Priority
Let's say you're now clear on what you need to do.

When you have a lot to do, it can be hard to know where to start.

You start thinking about designing your website... but maybe you should write the sales letter first so you know what it'll look like... hang on, have you done enough market research yet?

After clarity comes priority - you know what the end result will look like, but that doesn't mean you know how to get there.

When you have a hundred tasks that all need doing, where do you start? You could pick on at random... only to have your mind constantly interrupt.

"What about X?"

"Don't forget to do Y before you publish!"

With a head that noisy, no wonder you don't get much done.

Solution: you don't want to ignore these interruptions - they tell you vital things. Write them down. Make a note of what needs doing before what, and what has a deadline. Sort your tasks by priority and work your way through them.

Overwhelm
You're clear on what needs doing and when. But when you look at your list of tasks, you get this sinking feeling inside you.

It's common to procrastinate when there's just so much to do.

You might find the big picture overwhelming, thinking ahead to all that you need to accomplish.

Or you might look at today's list of tasks and think there's no way to get through them all.

If failure is inevitable, why fight it?

I won't indulge a broken premise. You haven't failed until you've quit.

Maybe your list of tasks needs tweaking. Or maybe you really do have to get through all this. Either way, you'll be surprised what you can accomplish once you get typing.

Solution: the best approach I've ever come across is the Pomodoro technique. Set a timer and work without distractions for 20 minutes. When the timer goes off, take a quick break. Stretch your legs, have a cup of tea. Then get back into it.

That's not all there is to teach you about your victory over procrastination. There are other causes of it, so there are other techniques for resolving it.

And there's more to learning to write like a demon than even all that.

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The hard truth about making your dreams come true

 

They Can Take Your Mind But They Can Never Take Your Freedom

 A common, modern trap:

You enter the workforce as an idealistic young employee.

It's exciting to have real money for the first time. Plus the prospect of promotions, training and pay rises.

Life is sweet.

Then you start getting used to the money.

You like your home, whether you're renting or buying. Plus being able to eat out, travel and indulge in the occasional luxury.

Once you're used to it, it's hard it give it up.

Then the honeymoon period ends and your job seems a lot less worthwhile.

Promotions and pay rises are rarer than they seemed... and uncorrelated with your performance.

As a new employee, you were probably shielded from most of the office politics. Over time, that shield melts away.

The work seems a lot less meaningful, now you can see nothing ever changes.

At times, you feel frustrated - maybe even feel trapped.

Which is strange, because there are always ways out. There are no armed guards or barbed wire.

You can find a new job... and hope it's not the same story there.

Maybe even a new career (same story again).

And you can always downgrade your lifestyle.

None of that is easy (or quick)... but they're easier than living with the sense that you're stuck.

Especially when every day drains your mental and emotional energies. It's hard to see things in perspective when you're running on fumes.

The good news is you can always choose to be free.

I'm not going to say freedom is in your mind, not in your circumstances.

I'm not going to point to Epictetus who was not only a slave but physically crippled too. Even so, he recognised freedom comes from within, so he chose to be happy, to live as a free man.

Which, in turn, lead to his freedom from slavery.

But I'm not going to say that because it's not true.

Well, rather, it's incomplete.

Sure, true freedom is in your mind. But when the system grinds your mind to paste, it can be hard to find it there.

That's okay, because true freedom is also in your body.

When you bring your mind and body together - when you pay attention to your body, when you move, when you release tension - everything seems more possible.

So even if you're a zombie at the end of the day...

Well, even zombies can stumble forward.

So take control of what you can and move - deliberately and with purpose.

So that's one way to enhance your life.

But if self-improvement really interests you, what would you do with more techniques than you can use?

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STOP searching for your passion and do this instead | Mel Robbins

 

The No-Thing

 Many years ago a dear friend and I were chatting about our favorite subject at the time - manifesting. She was a master at creating and magnetizing to her whatever she desired and was very generous in sharing with me the techniques she used.

"I don't own these methods," she'd say. "They belong to all of us. The more that people know how powerful they are in creating their life, the more they'll do a better job of it. What I share with you is designed to be used to consciously create the things you love. If everyone did this, we'd have a better world."

And so I share with you this tidbit that she gave me about manifesting into your life what you love.

Before you can add what you would love to have or to be to your life, you must make room for it. Until you rid yourself of those things in your life that cause you to feel negative emotions, you won't be able to bring into your life the things you want that make you feel happy. When you buy a new sofa, you can't put it in your house until you get rid of the old one. Same goes for anything negative that is taking up room in your life, whether it's a person, a thing, or a belief.

This is where the No-Thing modality comes into play.

The premise of the No-Thing is that you have an emotion about everything in your life. That emotion varies in intensity and quality. You can absolutely hate and detest something or you can find it mildly annoying. You can adore something or simply like it somewhat. To the degree that you feel the emotion, you are attached to that thing. So if you feel an extreme hate about, say, your job, it's going to be more difficult for you to leave it than if you simply find it somewhat disagreeable.

Additionally, whatever the specific thing is that you hate about your job, even if you quit your present job and find another, that thing you detest will follow you to the next job. Until you release your emotional attachment of hatred to that thing it will continue to be a part of your life. It must become a No-Thing in order for you to rid yourself of it.

How do you make the emotional attachments you don't want disappear from your life? Here are some techniques to help you rid yourself of an emotional attachment and make it a No-Thing:

1. Shrinking: Close your eyes and envision the thing you detest. Feel the emotion. Now make that vision begin to become smaller and smaller. Notice as it shrinks in size how your emotional response to it become less intense. Shrink it until it completely disappears. Repeat as desired.

2. Moving: Close your eyes and envision the thing you abhor. If it's an action, see yourself performing it. Now send that vision away from you and watch as it moves into the distance, farther and farther away until you can't see it any more. Notice how you feel as it moves away from you. Repeat as often as you like.

3. Talking: Close your eyes and imagine the thing you hate. If it's an activity, give it a shape and color or some other kind of identity. Ask it these questions: What are you teaching me? What must I know or do to be done with you? What is the opposite of you that would be beneficial for me to attract to myself?

The good news is that the emotional attachment you have to the things you love keeps them in your life.

Kathy Wilson helps people create a better life for themselves using a multi-faceted approach. Your needs are unique, and the methods she uses are customized to your specific needs. As her client, you and she may use Life Purpose Coaching, spiritual mentoring and consulting, NLP, vibrational healing, PSYCH-K, Tarot, teaching... whatever is in your highest and best interests. She's a Certified Professional Coach, spiritual teacher, Reiki master, vibrational healer, author of An Inner Journey: Living Your Life Purpose, and has written and published many books and articles. For information about her products, services, and classes, visit her website: http://www.warrior-priestess.com.

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Use This To Control Your Brain - Mel Robbins