So, we are twenty-first century women, living in a free country with nominally equal opportunities. We now aspire to, and can have and do things that our grandmothers could only dream of. But how free do you really feel?
The truth is that many of us aren't really feeling the liberation to shine and achieve that is rightfully ours. More often than not, we feel undermined, under pressure and overwhelmed.
On one hand, we feel driven to succeed out in the world, to prove our worth and our abilities, and to succeed. Yet we feel under pressure to be perfect, to support and care for our families, juggling all those endless demands. Then on top of that, the unconscious bias, still so prevalent in society, undermines us again and again. It's utterly exhausting.
What is at the root of all this? Is there more to this than meets the eye?
The truth is that all women are receiving mixed, incompatible messages. Not on the surface, maybe, but from the hidden layers of our minds underneath the conscious world. Think about it like a computer operating system. Our subconscious minds are still being run by the operating system of the past - an operating system that knows nothing of twenty-first century freedom and equality. Similarly for society and the group consciousness, the old operating system continues to run. Within these hidden energetic levels, all the obsolete rules and restrictions on women still exist. All those archaic beliefs about a woman being limited to the domestic world, not being allowed to outshine a man and needing to be demure, obedient and quiet, are still running.
Yes, I'm serious, these old patterns still sit there within everybody's minds and they undermine us subtly like a hidden poison. I've spent the last twenty years identifying these patterns and restrictions. Even for women such as myself, brought up with opportunity and equality, those old patterns are indeed there.
Here's the problem. We are pushing forwards with our motivation, goals, aspirations and hunger for success, and in doing so are forcing ourselves to move in the opposite direction to where our subconscious minds think we should go. We are rebelling against this old programming every day of our lives.
Each time we strive to push forwards, this triggers the old operating system to drag us back. We aren't aware of it, we just feel the struggle. Our subconscious minds are simply not on the same page as us; our subconscious minds do not want us to succeed and shine.
Similarly, each time we expand our visibility, leadership and impact in the world, those around us - who also have the old operating system of course - get the message from their subconscious minds that we are doing something forbidden, that we are the wrong shape (=gender) for the job, promotion or level of status, and so we get overlooked, attacked, ignored or put down. This may manifest in subtle ways that undermine over time, or in the more blatant issues that every professional woman is aware of.
The result - ever-increasing inner conflict. This undermines wellbeing, happiness, success, confidence and self-esteem. This is the root of our imposter syndrome, the confidence gap and the unconscious bias.
So what can we do to overcome this?
The first step is to understand this hidden push-pull phenomenon. The root of your stress is that we are being pulled in opposite directions without you realising it. You have in fact been dealing with far more than you ever imagined because you've been dealing with this inner conflict every single day. It is no wonder that we feel exhausted and stressed.
Once you understand the true cause of your inner conflict, you are back in the driving seat. Simply understanding that the legacy of the past is pulling you back reduces its hold over you. As soon as you realise you have been manipulated by this hidden level you can start undoing the damage and pulling back your power.
Your essential takeaway for now - you have been dealing with so much more than you realised. This means you are stronger, more resilient, more determined and more gifted than you ever thought possible.
Professional women at this time are the pioneers. We have the real-world opportunities that our predecessors have won for us, but there is still much to do. Women won't have a truly level playing field until we have freed ourselves from the hidden subconscious sabotage of the past.
Is this an impossible dream? Do we need to wait another hundred years for things to update naturally? No we don't. With the understanding of what we are really dealing with, and the right tools, we can change things now.
Dr Anne Whitehouse is an author, a PhD scientist turned life alchemist and confidence expert. Above all, she is a passionate empowerer of women, dedicated to helping them achieve their full potential by releasing the conditioning and traumas that block their success and damage wellbeing.
After 20 years of research, applying her scientific approach to the subconscious world, and working with many professional women, Anne developed a six-key, ground-breaking code to unlock profound confidence by breaking free of old limitations set by the patriarchal systems encoded into our psyche. This life-changing process is described in her impactful new book "Pull Back Your Power", which offers techniques to release women from the hidden subconscious restraints that continue to sabotage their wellbeing and block success, despite the freedoms of the 21st century. https://feminineconfidence.com/pull-back-your-power
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